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I'm not sure this helps, but historically speaking, things have always been scary.

I'm not sure *this* helps, but I like it anyway: The words of the English mystic Mother Julian of Norwich, who voluntarily spent most of her life in a cell attached to a church:

'All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of thing shall be well"'

In the middle of WWIi, T.S. Eliot repeated this like a mantra in his poem "Little. Gidding."

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That’s a favorite saying of mine, too, Annette, and one that does help.

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May it be so

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Oct 18, 2023Liked by Kate McDermott

I agree with you, Kate, and just to add a little bit to what you are saying: Reframing is an important stress management tool. Viewing the events of life as a movie or play, doesn’t mean we don’t care about people suffering, or that we don’t step up to the plate to help, but it’s using a more cosmic perspective to help us better cope with some of the horrific tragedies in life. I am praying deeply for all the victims. 🙏🏼💜

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Well said, Kate! I like the idea of reframing because it requires the person doing it to become aware of the "need to reframe" ~ meaning the discomfort of what they're feeling. And then, to realize they can CHOOSE their own way of dealing with their life. Many concepts are foisted upon us from a very early age. Not many people ever examine those ideas to see if they still comport with the their current reality. We could all benefit from such a re-examination of our beliefs/things we accept as "given" ~ to make sure all such concepts are still valid for us. Reframing is a truly valuable tool should we decide that some ideas are no longer useful! Thanks again, Kate 😉

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Oct 18, 2023Liked by Kate McDermott

I was talking recently with someone and I was expressing my frustration at the number of people who see homeless people setting up their tents where they can be seen by the public and saying that they need to be moved out of there. "Where are they supposed to go? There's never anyplace else being prepared for people - we just don't want to have to see them!" My friend said "Maybe the question isn't where are they supposed to go? Maybe it's how can we help get these folks back on their feet?" It stopped me in my tracks. Here in Seattle, we keep voting for taxes meant to fund projects to help homelessness. This is because Seattle, like a great many cities in the US, is filled with people who want to help others, who have kindness and compassion for their fellow human beings. But we keep voting for taxes that somehow get spent in other ways. We don't hold our local government to their promises. I find it hard to believe that it's almost impossible to figure out what to do to help people down on their luck. (and many, many people are just one or two paychecks away from losing their homes.) We need to do better. Our city and state governments have a duty to serve all of the residents, not just those who don't need their help.

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I believe that homelessness is one thing that cannot be reframed and we cannot look away from. There are no easy answers.

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Oct 19, 2023Liked by Kate McDermott

I agree. I find it shameful that one of the richest countries in the world has turned its back on so many of its people.

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Oct 19, 2023Liked by Kate McDermott

I believe in reincarnation. I'm saying this because I believe the world leaders have all done this before and will continue to do it. They are not learning their lessons and they just keep coming back and perpetuating the horror. We were given free will and everything has to play out according to our free will.

It's incomparably sad.

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So do I, Mel, and it definitely finds its way into “the show.”

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Oct 20, 2023Liked by Kate McDermott

Your wise words are always appreciated. Long time no see.

Best regards,

Rick

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Thanks so much, Rick. If you are in town today, we're having our annual cider pressing and potluck.

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Sorry to miss an event such as that.

I am in Victoria, Annemarie is off to visit family in California for 2 weeks.

Cheers,

Rick

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